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[Scott]

Remember that you're loved. There is someone out there who will care for you, who will stand up for you, who will fight in your battles, and who will be the one to tend for you while you are not so well. Try to take a happy look at things and remember that this world is a better place with you here. There is a plan for you, and it's always worth finishing that plan. If you ever need to talk more, just let me know <3

 

[Valiour]

Just stop drop and roll.
Jks. I would usually cry in the room by myself if I get saddened. After that I would smile again. Just let it all out. But it seems now you are OK
Live up life my friend. You would never be happy always in life.

 

[Atu]

Be happy SMILE

Oh my god what a legend

 

[charliewolves]

Appreciate it.
But again, just the same thing. "Think about the positives" "Hang out with friends"
Feeling like you don't belong here, there or anywhere, I don't see how I'd hang out with friends.
Positives, it's really hard to think of the good side, then the negative side when your suffering from depression. It's usually dispatched as the negatives just transfer to your head.

I was Depressed for 3 years. Im out of it now. I know its really hard because you feel like people don't understand. Or you feel isolated. Just make sure there is noise. Alone = sadness. Even if its just watching the TV. My point about positives: When my grandad died I tried to forget. I still do whenever someone dies and it kickstarts my depression feelings, however, Instead of forgetting in the end, I remember about how much fun there was, and how it is with me forever, and how im never alone. I have friends who will be with me, and strangers. You are NEVER Alone.

 

[bad2020]

I know this may be late by now. I always just start doing something else. Whatever you do don't let it win. If you need someone to talk to I am always here. I have been through depression and I made it through. It is tough but it is possible to defeat.

 

[smashmaster]

My depression goes up and down but what I do is try to hangout with friends more and workout 4-5 times a week it really helps you forget about everything

 

[BaccaBoy1999]

Hack on randie servers and grief shieeet up.

trust me u will feel soo much better

 

[Tuatara]

1. Write. Keep a journal. Somehow writing everything down helps keep the misery from running around in circles.
2. Listen to your favorite “help” songs (a bunch of songs that have strong positive meaning for you).
3. Read (anything and everything) Go to the library and check out fiction you’ve wanted to read for a long time; books about depression, spirituality, morality; biographies about people who suffered from depression but still did well with their lives (Winston Churchill and Martin Luther, to name two).
4. Sleep for a while.
5. Even when busy, remember to sleep. Notice if what you do before sleeping changes how you sleep.
6. If you might be a danger to yourself, don’t be alone. Find people. If that is not practical, call them up on the phone. If there is no one you feel you can call, suicide hotlines can be helpful, even if you’re not quite that badly off yet.
7. Hug someone or have someone hug you.
8. Remember to eat. Notice if eating certain things (e.g. sugar or coffee) changes how you feel.
9. Make yourself a fancy dinner, maybe invite someone over.
10. Take a bath or a perfumed bubble bath.
11. Mess around on the computer.
12. Rent comedy videos.
13. Go for a long walk.
14. Dancing. Alone in your house or out with a friend.
15. Eat well. Try to alternate foods you like (maybe junk foods) with the stuff you know you should be eating.
16. Spend some time playing with a child.
17. Buy yourself a gift.
18. Phone a friend.
19. Read the newspaper comics page.
20. Do something unexpectedly nice for someone.
21. Do something unexpectedly nice for yourself.
22. Go outside and look at the sky.
23. Get some exercise while you’re out, but don’t take it too seriously.
24. Pulling weeds is nice, and so is digging in the dirt.
25. Sing. If you are worried about responses from critical neighbors, go for a drive and sing as loud as you want in the car. There’s something about the physical act of singing old favorites that’s very soothing. Maybe the rhythmic breathing that singing enforces does something for you too. Lullabies are especially good.
26. Pick a small easy task, like sweeping the floor, and do it.
27. If you can meditate, it’s really helpful. But when you’re really down you may not be able to meditate. Your ability to meditate will return when the depression lifts. If you are unable to meditate, find some comforting reading and read it out loud.
28. Feed yourself nourishing food.
29. Bring in some flowers and look at them.
30. Exercise, Sports. It is amazing how well some people can play sports even when feeling very miserable.
31. Pick some action that is so small and specific you know you can do it in the present. This helps you feel better because you actually accomplish something, instead of getting caught up in abstract worries and huge ideas for change. For example say “hi” to someone new if you are trying to be more sociable. Or, clean up one side of a room if you are trying to regain control over your home.
32. If you’re anxious about something you’re avoiding, try to get some support to face it.
33. Getting Up. Many depressions are characterized by guilt, and lots of it. Many of the things that depressed people want to do because of their depressions (staying in bed, not going out) wind up making the depression worse because they end up causing depressed people to feel like they are screwing things up more and more. So if you’ve had six or seven hours of sleep, try to make yourself get out of bed the moment you wake up ... you may not always succeed, but when you do, it’s nice to have gotten a head start on the day.
34. Cleaning the house. This worked for some people me in a big way. When depressions are at their worst, you may find yourself unable to do brain work, but you probably can do body things. One depressed person wrote, “So I spent two weeks cleaning my house, and I mean CLEANING: cupboards scrubbed, walls washed, stuff given away... throughout the two weeks, I kept on thinking ‘I’m not cleaning it right, this looks terrible, I don’t even know how to clean properly’, but at the end, I had this sparkling beautiful house!”
35. Volunteer work. Doing volunteer work on a regular basis seems to keep the demons at bay, somewhat... it can help take the focus off of yourself and put it on people who may have larger problems (even though it doesn’t always feel that way).
36. In general, It is extremely important to try to understand if something you can’t seem to accomplish is something you simply CAN’T do because you’re depressed (write a computer program, be charming on a date), or whether its something you CAN do, but it’s going to be hell (cleaning the house, going for a walk with a friend, getting out of bed). If it turns out to be something you can do, but don’t want to, try to do it anyway. You will not always succeed, but try. And when you succeed, it will always amaze you to look back on it afterwards and say “I felt like such Good, but look how well I managed to...!” This last technique, by the way, usually works for body stuff only (cleaning, cooking, etc.). The brain stuff often winds up getting put off until after the depression lifts.
37. Do not set yourself difficult goals or take on a great deal of responsibility.
38. Break large tasks into many smaller ones, set some priorities, and do what you can, as you can.
39. Do not expect too much from yourself. Unrealistic expectations will only increase feelings of failure, as they are impossible to meet.
40. Perfectionism leads to increased depression.
41. Try to be with other people, it is usually better than being alone.
42. Participate in activities that may make you feel better. You might try mild exercise, going to a movie, a ball game, or participating in religious or social activities. Don’t overdo it or get upset if your mood does not greatly improve right away. Feeling better takes time.
43. Do not make any major life decisions, such as quitting your job or getting married or separated while depressed. The negative thinking that accompanies depression may lead to horribly wrong decisions. If pressured to make such a decision, explain that you will make the decision as soon as possible after the depression lifts. Remember you are not seeing yourself, the world, or the future in an objective way when you are depressed.
44. While people may tell you to “snap out” of your depression, that is not possible. The recovery from depression usually requires antidepressant therapy and/or psychotherapy. You cannot simple make yourself “snap out” of the depression. Asking you to “snap out” of a depression makes as much sense as asking someone to “snap out” of diabetes or an under-active thyroid gland.
45. Remember: Depression makes you have negative thoughts about yourself, about the world, the people in your life, and about the future.
46. Remember that your negative thoughts are not a rational way to think of things. It is as if you are seeing yourself, the world, and the future through a fog of negativity. Do not accept your negative thinking as being true. It is part of the depression and will disappear as your depression responds to treatment. If your negative (hopeless) view of the future leads you to seriously consider suicide, be sure to tell your doctor about this and ask for help. Suicide would be an irreversible act based on your unrealistically hopeless thoughts. Remember that the feeling that nothing can make depression better is part of the illness of depression. Things are probably not nearly as hopeless as you think they are.

 

[joshiee]

joshiee ;-; can you tell me whats' going on in your life? I want to help you

Dont want to tell you over here, I'll PM you. Just don't share it please.

 

[Kirsten]

Dont want to tell you over here, I'll PM you. Just don't share it please.

Would it be alright to tell me as well? I've helped people through depression or feeling depressed, I'm sure I could do something to help

 

[joshiee]

1. Write. Keep a journal. Somehow writing everything down helps keep the misery from running around in circles.
2. Listen to your favorite “help” songs (a bunch of songs that have strong positive meaning for you).
3. Read (anything and everything) Go to the library and check out fiction you’ve wanted to read for a long time; books about depression, spirituality, morality; biographies about people who suffered from depression but still did well with their lives (Winston Churchill and Martin Luther, to name two).
4. Sleep for a while.
5. Even when busy, remember to sleep. Notice if what you do before sleeping changes how you sleep.
6. If you might be a danger to yourself, don’t be alone. Find people. If that is not practical, call them up on the phone. If there is no one you feel you can call, suicide hotlines can be helpful, even if you’re not quite that badly off yet.
7. Hug someone or have someone hug you.
8. Remember to eat. Notice if eating certain things (e.g. sugar or coffee) changes how you feel.
9. Make yourself a fancy dinner, maybe invite someone over.
10. Take a bath or a perfumed bubble bath.
11. Mess around on the computer.
12. Rent comedy videos.
13. Go for a long walk.
14. Dancing. Alone in your house or out with a friend.
15. Eat well. Try to alternate foods you like (maybe junk foods) with the stuff you know you should be eating.
16. Spend some time playing with a child.
17. Buy yourself a gift.
18. Phone a friend.
19. Read the newspaper comics page.
20. Do something unexpectedly nice for someone.
21. Do something unexpectedly nice for yourself.
22. Go outside and look at the sky.
23. Get some exercise while you’re out, but don’t take it too seriously.
24. Pulling weeds is nice, and so is digging in the dirt.
25. Sing. If you are worried about responses from critical neighbors, go for a drive and sing as loud as you want in the car. There’s something about the physical act of singing old favorites that’s very soothing. Maybe the rhythmic breathing that singing enforces does something for you too. Lullabies are especially good.
26. Pick a small easy task, like sweeping the floor, and do it.
27. If you can meditate, it’s really helpful. But when you’re really down you may not be able to meditate. Your ability to meditate will return when the depression lifts. If you are unable to meditate, find some comforting reading and read it out loud.
28. Feed yourself nourishing food.
29. Bring in some flowers and look at them.
30. Exercise, Sports. It is amazing how well some people can play sports even when feeling very miserable.
31. Pick some action that is so small and specific you know you can do it in the present. This helps you feel better because you actually accomplish something, instead of getting caught up in abstract worries and huge ideas for change. For example say “hi” to someone new if you are trying to be more sociable. Or, clean up one side of a room if you are trying to regain control over your home.
32. If you’re anxious about something you’re avoiding, try to get some support to face it.
33. Getting Up. Many depressions are characterized by guilt, and lots of it. Many of the things that depressed people want to do because of their depressions (staying in bed, not going out) wind up making the depression worse because they end up causing depressed people to feel like they are screwing things up more and more. So if you’ve had six or seven hours of sleep, try to make yourself get out of bed the moment you wake up ... you may not always succeed, but when you do, it’s nice to have gotten a head start on the day.
34. Cleaning the house. This worked for some people me in a big way. When depressions are at their worst, you may find yourself unable to do brain work, but you probably can do body things. One depressed person wrote, “So I spent two weeks cleaning my house, and I mean CLEANING: cupboards scrubbed, walls washed, stuff given away... throughout the two weeks, I kept on thinking ‘I’m not cleaning it right, this looks terrible, I don’t even know how to clean properly’, but at the end, I had this sparkling beautiful house!”
35. Volunteer work. Doing volunteer work on a regular basis seems to keep the demons at bay, somewhat... it can help take the focus off of yourself and put it on people who may have larger problems (even though it doesn’t always feel that way).
36. In general, It is extremely important to try to understand if something you can’t seem to accomplish is something you simply CAN’T do because you’re depressed (write a computer program, be charming on a date), or whether its something you CAN do, but it’s going to be hell (cleaning the house, going for a walk with a friend, getting out of bed). If it turns out to be something you can do, but don’t want to, try to do it anyway. You will not always succeed, but try. And when you succeed, it will always amaze you to look back on it afterwards and say “I felt like such Good, but look how well I managed to...!” This last technique, by the way, usually works for body stuff only (cleaning, cooking, etc.). The brain stuff often winds up getting put off until after the depression lifts.
37. Do not set yourself difficult goals or take on a great deal of responsibility.
38. Break large tasks into many smaller ones, set some priorities, and do what you can, as you can.
39. Do not expect too much from yourself. Unrealistic expectations will only increase feelings of failure, as they are impossible to meet.
40. Perfectionism leads to increased depression.
41. Try to be with other people, it is usually better than being alone.
42. Participate in activities that may make you feel better. You might try mild exercise, going to a movie, a ball game, or participating in religious or social activities. Don’t overdo it or get upset if your mood does not greatly improve right away. Feeling better takes time.
43. Do not make any major life decisions, such as quitting your job or getting married or separated while depressed. The negative thinking that accompanies depression may lead to horribly wrong decisions. If pressured to make such a decision, explain that you will make the decision as soon as possible after the depression lifts. Remember you are not seeing yourself, the world, or the future in an objective way when you are depressed.
44. While people may tell you to “snap out” of your depression, that is not possible. The recovery from depression usually requires antidepressant therapy and/or psychotherapy. You cannot simple make yourself “snap out” of the depression. Asking you to “snap out” of a depression makes as much sense as asking someone to “snap out” of diabetes or an under-active thyroid gland.
45. Remember: Depression makes you have negative thoughts about yourself, about the world, the people in your life, and about the future.
46. Remember that your negative thoughts are not a rational way to think of things. It is as if you are seeing yourself, the world, and the future through a fog of negativity. Do not accept your negative thinking as being true. It is part of the depression and will disappear as your depression responds to treatment. If your negative (hopeless) view of the future leads you to seriously consider suicide, be sure to tell your doctor about this and ask for help. Suicide would be an irreversible act based on your unrealistically hopeless thoughts. Remember that the feeling that nothing can make depression better is part of the illness of depression. Things are probably not nearly as hopeless as you think they are.

Some incredibly good advice there, thanks!
And yeah, when I'm depressed I just like to listen to music because I think if I talk to someone they'd think why I'm not talking xD

 

[Scott]

Dont want to tell you over here, I'll PM you. Just don't share it please.

Can you let me know as well in a PM? I sometimes know the right things to say, and I really feel bad for you.