Online dating - Your opinions?

[Mango]

Heyo,

So, not long ago, there were a few threads all to do with online dating and long distance relationships, things like that. I wanted to know what you guys think about the idea as a whole. I welcome all kinds of opinions as long as vindicate it, and not by calling other people 'stupid' or 'no lifes' just because you don't like the view point they have, I'd like to think most people here are mature enough to respect that. I like discussing things like this, so I hope we can get some good outlooks in here.


Here's what I think:

I do think that online dating is an acceptable thing nowadays. Our generation has become very dependant on electronics and the internet which has led to us doing many things online. Whether you would like to admit it or not, it's fairly obvious the chances are quite high that you could meet someone with similar interests to you on the internet. I'm not saying it's harder to find someone compatible with you IRL at all, there are so many variables. Though I can say, with a degree of certainty, that meeting someone who matches you is very plausible with the masses of people the browse the web.

Shy people - There are many people like me who are very shy in real life. The internet could be their escape from the anxiety which consumes them in actual social interactions. To a certain extent, you can become a different person here.

People with insecurities - Again, like me, there are people who are insecure about their looks. Sure, I've gotten better, but when talking to any girl I have a remote attraction to IRL the only thing that runs through my head is what they might think of me, in terms of how I look, how I sound, and how I interact with them.

No, I have never asked anyone out IRL or over the internet, I'm way too shy for either.

I was going to shove an anecdote in here but it's a little personal and I can't see anyone wanting to hear it. xD Anyway, happy posting!

 

[RC_4777]

There's nothing wrong at all with meeting people online for the purpose of dating, but I feel that at least at some point a real life connection needs to be established.

 

[AlgerWaterlow]

I've been on five dates IRL. One to junior prom, one to senior homecoming, and three basically coffee/dinner dates with a girl in college even though it went nowhere and we basically friend-zoned each other.

However, I've been rejected countless times and as such came running to the Internet for acceptance. You have to work equally hard to be accepted here....even if people are a little more acceptING not knowing your real life traits.

You know you play too much MCSG when fem Minecraft skins start looking cuter than actual women. :/

Anywho, I've always heard the miracle stories of online dating and agree that it becomes more likely with each passing day. Both parties really do have to have the money though for transit purposes. There's a lot more trust required. I *hate* practicality though. If I do find someone I click with for long enough, we can throw caution to the winds and at least meet up. I'd take her out to dinner and swing dancing...;-;

 

[Fox]

Feelings can correlate exactly as in real life, therefore my opinion, and as I always say, is: "As long as you love, I guess its fine" c:
But, you can't fall in love with everyone in the internet...

 

[billyguy1]

A lot of people think it's stupid, but it's really not. Like RC said, as long as the couple meet up IRL eventually, it's not stupid at all.

It's a lot harder than IRL dating, there is a lot more trust involved(seeing as your online partner could be cheating on you without you having any knowledge of it) but when you get past that fear, there isn't really problems with it. Except the distance between the couple, that's not easy to cope with ;P

 

[AlgerWaterlow]

Feelings can correlate exactly as in real life, therefore my opinion, and as I always say, is: "As long as you love, I guess its fine" c:
But, you can't fall in love with everyone in the internet...

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=d7tEGPUSt8Y << 0:25

 

[Beardy]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but in my opinion, you have to be pretty desperate to date someone over a computer, that you've never actually met. However, like RC and Billy said, I think it's fine if you meet up. Otherwise, find someone you know offline.

 

[billyguy1]

you have to be pretty desperate to date someone over a computer, that you've never actually met.

woooow :c

 

[Beardy]

woooow :c

I'm sorry :c You two are perfect and it's an exception

 

[iMightTroll]

Internet dating... It has it's ups and downs.

Obviously you can go message people address and places to meet up like "Meet me at ______ at __:__pm" and then they go live happily ever after.

On the other hand, most nights on the news I hear stories about people who have used online dating to find "love" and they end up being robbed of their money or there other valuable possession.

In my opinion, the Cons outweigh the Pros and most of the time the online daters end up going down the second path.

 

[Fox]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but in my opinion, you have to be pretty desperate to date someone over a computer, that you've never actually met. However, like RC and Billy said, I think it's fine if you meet up. Otherwise, find someone you know offline.

I don't think desperation has to occur to fall in love with someone over the internet, or over a game rather.
As long as you love, its fine c:::

 

[Zable]

I've been on five dates IRL. One to junior prom, one to senior homecoming, and three basically coffee/dinner dates with a girl in college even though it went nowhere and we basically friend-zoned each other.

However, I've been rejected countless times and as such came running to the Internet for acceptance. You have to work equally hard to be accepted here....even if people are a little more acceptING not knowing your real life traits.

You know you play too much MCSG when fem Minecraft skins start looking cuter than actual women. :/

Anywho, I've always heard the miracle stories of online dating and agree that it becomes more likely with each passing day. Both parties really do have to have the money though for transit purposes. There's a lot more trust required. I *hate* practicality though. If I do find someone I click with for long enough, we can throw caution to the winds and at least meet up. I'd take her out to dinner and swing dancing...;-;

This is way off topic. I have seen you around the forums. I love the way you type it is just awesome.