How to deal with Death?

[Niall]

As people have said previously, death is natural and is hard to cope with at first. Grieving is going to occur no matter what, it is human nature alike with death, but make sure you remain positive. Places like youth groups for example are really good places to go talk about your emotions and I actually found comfort through one when my uncle and cousin passed away tragically. Find a way to ventilate your emotions in a positive manner by also doing things you love. I'm also always up for a friendly chat and feel free to message me here on the forums or where ever you feel most comfortable. Trust me, I don't bite. I hope you have a safe and Merry Christmas and find comfort these holidays. <3

 

[KittehMonstah]

It's fine to feel really crappy for a very long time after a death of a family member. In fact, I'd recommend not trying to make yourself happy - sometimes shoving pain back will only make it worse in the long run.

If you want to do something that will truly make yourself feel better, try remembering all the fun times you had together. Yes, an onslaught of tears will follow, but pain and tears are all part of the healing process. And it helps if you cry over something good rather than something bad, like just his death itself.

We had to put my cat down the other week - she was only 2 and had brain cancer. I cried for a bit, like 30 minutes, stuck on the fact that she had died. I was too focused on the loss that I was just making myself feel worse. I decided to switch mindsets and remember that she is in a better place and I did all I could for her - and all the fun times we had together. I ended up in tears for 2 hours straight, but the pain was gone. The stress of the death had vanished, and the tears I shed were tears of healing; not tears of loss.

 

[AGFire2013]

It's awful to learn that this has happened to you - my dog died a couple of years ago and I was in an awful state. Try to focus on the positives of his life, the happy moments that make you feel happy inside.
It's okay to grieve and cry, we all need to let out our feelings, there's absolutely no shame in it. If it's too painful to bear for now, try to distract yourself for a little bit after the initial bit of pain, and then try to focus on the positive aspects of his life afterwards when you're calmer. Feel happy that you were fortunate to have such a great person in your life, and vice versa. Celebrate his life rather than grieve it.

 

[Res]

Just try and take your mind off it, because the more you think about it, the more it hurts.

 

[Harris|DareDevilMan1]

Really sorry for you. It's even worse that it happened in the time close to Christmas. I am pretty sure 3 of my uncles/aunts died from cancer, who all of them were really nice and it's pretty sad that they died. Just try to forget it and whenever you think about it, remember he didn't died in pain, but peacefully. Best of luck and sorry for your loss.

 

[krazylegz254]

Just try and take your mind off it, because the more you think about it, the more it hurts.

I see what your trying to say, but it's probably not best if he tries to not think about it. It was his uncle and not thinking about it is just going to hurt more in the long run.

 

[KiDD]

First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. I've experienced losses quite a bit in my family. Not thinking about it and blocking it out eventually is the way to go, but seeing as a first death in your family can be a lot to deal with, it's very difficult. Death is an inevitable, unavoidable part of life, and in all is just a highly thought provoking topic. Although in the end, it's best to do what makes you happy and keeps your mind off it. Know he was good person and he made you happy and what happened, happened. Anything that makes you happy, my friend. Personally, the time around Christmas has a bad past for me, but it's a good time to be with your family. Once again, sorry for you loss, but just try to be happy dude.

 

[davidkatimim4]

Ohh god. I am really sorry for your uncle.
Just do things that u like to do when u are sad.
For example: listen to music, hangout with ur buddies and be on teamspeak with ur clan and stuff like that!
You'll feel better over time.

 

[Toast]

Family death is always hard to deal with. I was 10 when my great grandfather died at age 91, and then my grandfather died at ~60 (forget his age) about 4 months later of MS, and it crushed me. I was the only one on either side of my family that didn't follow any sort of religion, so it wasn't as easy as just brushing it off saying "Heaven will treat them well", but I do have to agree, following religious ideologies can help deal with a death very well. Around the time both my grandad and great grandad died, I came to the realization that I should never think about what happens to them after their worldly existance, but instead, I should appreciate and celebrate what they did in their life.

Either strategies I mentioned should work very well in this case. I wish you the best of luck.

 

[Brigade]

Johnny find something that keeps you going like sports and use that as motivation from your uncles death. Make it mean something to you. Hope this helps talk to your parents about it. Hope you can still enjoy your Christmas.







Sincerely
Brigade

 

[Blazerboy | Noah]

when death comes at you, come right back at death and smack him in the balls.
what i'm trying to say is, the right way to deal with death is inappropriate groping.

 

[Toast]

when death comes at you, come right back at death and smack him in the balls.
what i'm trying to say is, the right way to deal with death is inappropriate groping.

I mean whatever floats your boat.