How to fight social awkwardeness / shyness

[Wyz]

I believe people on here are socially shy, which totally understandable, I was shy and unconfident a year ago, but now I can talk with strangers like we knew each other for years. I think that this is a very good thing to know how to do, and that is, chatting with new people and getting to know them quicker, this comes handy if you switch school, so I'm here today to tell you what helped me to become confident and chatty :3

1. Forget about other people
If you worry about other people and what they think about you, you are going to fall short on this. Don't care about anyone's opinions on you, they don't matter. When you get this, you are half way there, trust me.

2. Practise
This is easy, as you can practise with anyone out there. ANYONE. You just need to force yourself to talk to everyone, plan some awkward situations for them, then you know what's going on and you can turn the conversation any way you want. Do unusual stuff that makes you laugh. For example, I was in a store with my friend, and I took a pair of bras and went to the shopskeeper asking 'Do you have mens version of these?' We had a pretty funny conversation, as she had a nice sense of humor too, and ended the conversation laughing. Get out of your comfort zone, force yourself into situations like this.

3. Don't be afraid of failing
This goes to everything, and it's a peetty easy thing to learn if you don't care what people think about you. If you are afraid of failing, you are afraid of doing. You are afraid of people laughing at you. They don't matter. The only thing that matters is you in this very moment and the choice that you make now. YOLO IT.

Also, confidence gets you girls. I know this. The first impression you give is important. As long as you are confident, you can hit on most girls out there.

I wanted to make a thread like this, just to tell you guys the basics on this stuff, sorry if I'm missing something, I didn't put that much thought into this, but I tried.



"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"

Not sure if I have this quote in my signature already, but it is good and all true so I hold onto that and you will go far.

 

[TheMaskedDomo]

I had this for the longest time but I realized no one is judging me and that actually people like mr presence and me.

 

[Wyz]

I had this for the longest time but I realized no one is judging me and that actually people like mr presence and me.

:3 good job on that

 

[Scout]

I'm too shy to join an English clan.

 

[Wyz]

I'm too shy to join an English clan.

Where are you from?

I am not English myself, but I got my courage to speak by first: Just chat in the clan group, when you get courage to join a call do it! You don't have to speak at first, just listen to others talk and get to know them. Eventually, tou will get the courage to speak!

 

[Scout]

Where are you from?

I am not English myself, but I got my courage to speak by first: Just chat in the clan group, when you get courage to join a call do it! You don't have to speak at first, just listen to others talk and get to know them. Eventually, tou will get the courage to speak!

I'm from Estonia, and yeah, thanks for your advice.

 

[Joey]

I overcame my shyness (people can vouch for me, I am an extremely awkward person) by becoming a moderator. Before I was a moderator, I was petrified whenever I tried to join a public channel on TeamSpeak. After becoming a moderator, I am like new, feeling more confident in my words, and now I don't even get butterflies.

All in all, my comment is pretty much an infomercial and becoming a moderator will help you do all of those things Wyz_Guy suggested that you do. Oh and by the way (In case you didn't know), here's the link to applications: http://apply.mcgamer.info/

 

[Mike]

Good guide man.

 

[Mooclan]

I wish it was as easy as it appears on paper. Sadly, it's not. I've tried, and still am trying.
I joined a completely new school a week late, and one year into high school. Being socially awkward, three weeks later I have still not made a single friend, and I don't even have anyone to call an "acquaintance", except for my teachers and guidance counselors.
Tomorrow, I'm going to be starting a new schedule. Some of the same teachers, some different, but all different classes. New peers, new faces, and no one that I know.

Anyone can come online and give recommendations, but some people are just so deep into the pit of shyness or being a social outcast that they simply don't have the option of coming out of it. I wish I wasn't one of those people, but I am.

/rantover/

 

[TheRealAussie]

I wish it was as easy as it appears on paper. Sadly, it's not. I've tried, and still am trying.
I joined a completely new school a week late, and one year into high school. Being socially awkward, three weeks later I have still not made a single friend, and I don't even have anyone to call an "acquaintance", except for my teachers and guidance counselors.
Tomorrow, I'm going to be starting a new schedule. Some of the same teachers, some different, but all different classes. New peers, new faces, and no one that I know.

Anyone can come online and give recommendations, but some people are just so deep into the pit of shyness or being a social outcast that they simply don't have the option of coming out of it. I wish I wasn't one of those people, but I am.

/rantover/

You could move to my school and we could be friends :]

 

[Mike]

It is hard to get over it if you are shy or awkward in social life, that's happen to me a lot. See, a couple of years back i was really really hmm awkward and what i mean is, i do really awkward stuff. Either if it is on the bus or at school. But like once i got to 8th grade remember, i was shy and awkward in 6th and 7th grade. But any ways, once i got into 8th grade i was really really awkward and people were bullying me and stuff and now i am in highschool and i was shy freshman year but that was only because i didn't know any one until it was like the middle of the year where i meant everyone and stuff but in english class, I was soooo shy, i didn't talk to any one and when i did it was answering a question from the teacher or a kid in my class. And now i am a sophmore and honestly, i'm not shy or awkward any more and let me tell you how i got over it. After freshman year, i thought a lot about middle school - 9th grade and i realize that i got bullied because of my voice and how i was. So i decided to change. So, basically i started to be a lot nicer and not annoy people like i did before. It was a struggle but i did it. Hope you did enjoy this little story about myself haha, you guys know me better now.

 

[boboy1999]

Nice try but I dont think this will help that much. Everyone is different and everyone will have their own ways of getting over this.

p.s. check your spelling next time.