Convincing Parents (send help pls)

[Lululioness]

I got an idea that once got me a game,

Get hurt. Once you're in hospital, ask for it in between coughs.

Missing school is a plus as well.

yeah all I have to do is get into the AFL team at school again and instead of fracturing my wrist, break my leg or something
Honestly, I've been contemplating this and sometimes I'm like
'it will probably work, first I need to figure out what I can do to injure myself enough to go to hospital but not enough to really harm myself'
but I'm also
'no wtf that's so dumb'

Lulu you're a goddess, how isn't that enough to get a PS4 ;-;

I got a C on my english essay and my mum called me fat and lazy so I yelled at her I don't think I'm a goddess (jk jk ty ty)

Just sort of gradually act nicer and nicer and hope they notice :3

I am trying but my mum keeps being really disrespectful to me and I get angry very very easily xD Thanks for the tip though c:

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UPDATE: I have now $700 to go towards buying it BUT ALL THE EBAY CHEAP ONES HAVE BEEN SOLD NOW EVERYTHING IS THE SAME AS THE RRP IN STORES I'M SO
I NEED TO SAVE MONEY SO I'M GETTING A CHEAP ONE

 

[Captain Dory]

I am trying but my mum keeps being really disrespectful to me

That is not good. Tell her who's boss! (Even though she is... er...)

Also, buy her flowers.

 

[AlgerWaterlow]

If you saved up your own money, it's YOUR money. You worked for it, you get something in return.

If you saved up the money, take your own initiative. If you bring home a PS4 one day, your parents will most likely NOT do this to it:

 

[AlgerWaterlow]

I am trying but my mum keeps being really disrespectful to me and I get angry very very easily xD Thanks for the tip though c:

You should respect your mother. Your mother doesn't *have* to respect your every wish. Gosh, what is wrong with my generation? I'm 21 and, though I don't let her dictate my life course, I still hold my mother's strong opinions on some things in high regard. Parents love their children; children respect their parents. Methinks you reversed those two. Kthnxbai.

 

[Lululioness]

You should respect your mother. Your mother doesn't *have* to respect your every wish. Gosh, what is wrong with my generation? I'm 21 and, though I don't let her dictate my life course, I still hold my mother's strong opinions on some things in high regard. Parents love their children; children respect their parents. Methinks you reversed those two. Kthnxbai.

Hey.
I believe I have been incredibly respectful to my mum and tried my hardest to please her. I get good grades, do my chores, don't get in trouble at school etc. I've stayed quiet for the past three months while she's thrown insults at me, constantly putting down my weight, interests, looks and intelligence. I sit through 10 minutes of her lecturing me on how fat/lazy I am or how stupid I am. Now I'm sick of it. Having an civilised discussion about this situation with her never works and always ends up with her saying that she can do what she likes. Every single time I see her, she picks out everything that's wrong with me, tells me everything I should've done or compares me to other kids and it's not cool. It use to be motivator for me to better myself but now I can't do it anymore xD

She has said 'I'd prefer you to be very skinny and smart with no happiness and self-esteem than happiness, self-esteem and being fat & dumb' but then wonders why I have no confidence to do anything. It's gotten to the point where my father has started taking my side in my arguments with my mum.

I believe we both have to respect each other- I respect her wishes within reason (e.g. she asks me to clean the bathroom. I clean the bathroom. She wants me to get above 95 in all maths tests? I endeavour to do that) and if I disagree with something she wants me to do/or does, I tell her in a respectful way and explain why I don't want to do it. If it doesn't convince her then I'll just do what she wants (unless it's really really uncool like murder)(don't worry she's never asked me to do that xD). No biggie.

When I ask questions about things because I simply didn't know about them, it's not 'oh cool curiousity' it's more 'F!#@ING HELL LUCY GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS". She makes fun of the fact that I like YouTubers or how much I love my favourite bands and singers (and it's not 'lol why do you like them so much', it's more 'HOLY F!@# LUCY, STOP WASTING YOUR TIME WITH THIS CRAP, IT'S SO DUMB. DO SOMETHING ELSE. I'M TAKING YOUR IPOD' and SHE doesn't support in any way with something I've found that I love to do.

I love my mum, but I believe there should be two-way respect between kids and parents. I do everything she asks of me and beyond, in return I think she should be nice to me xD If they eventually put their foot down and be like 'NO PS4 4 U' with a very good reason then hey, no PS4 for me. I use to hold my mother's opinions in high regard, but after the past few months I'm starting to wonder if I should be doing that.

My situation is no where near as bad as many kids around the world, I'm basically just trying to explain that I do respect my mum but the respect is getting to a breaking point. I understand that my mum wants the best for me, but the stuff she says to me ain't cool man.

idek if any of that made sense all of my posts have just been me rambling on wowowowow

If you saved up the money, take your own initiative. If you bring home a PS4 one day, your parents will most likely NOT do this to it:

I'd prefer to have their permission and respect the fact that at this point in time, they don't want me to get a PS4, but still do my best to convince them to let me get one.

That is not good. Tell her who's boss! (Even though she is... er...)

Also, buy her flowers.

She's boss and I repsect that, but she still needs to be nice to her daughter if her daughter is being a good kid xD

 

[BitoBain]

Hey.
I believe I have been incredibly respectful to my mum and tried my hardest to please her. I get good grades, do my chores, don't get in trouble at school etc. I've stayed quiet for the past three months while she's thrown insults at me, constantly putting down my weight, interests, looks and intelligence. I sit through 10 minutes of her lecturing me on how fat/lazy I am or how stupid I am. Now I'm sick of it. Having an civilised discussion about this situation with her never works and always ends up with her saying that she can do what she likes. Every single time I see her, she picks out everything that's wrong with me, tells me everything I should've done or compares me to other kids and it's not cool. It use to be motivator for me to better myself but now I can't do it anymore xD

She has said 'I'd prefer you to be very skinny and smart with no happiness and self-esteem than happiness, self-esteem and being fat & dumb' but then wonders why I have no confidence to do anything. It's gotten to the point where my father has started taking my side in my arguments with my mum.

I believe we both have to respect each other- I respect her wishes within reason (e.g. she asks me to clean the bathroom. I clean the bathroom. She wants me to get above 95 in all maths tests? I endeavour to do that) and if I disagree with something she wants me to do/or does, I tell her in a respectful way and explain why I don't want to do it. If it doesn't convince her then I'll just do what she wants (unless it's really really uncool like murder)(don't worry she's never asked me to do that xD). No biggie.

When I ask questions about things because I simply didn't know about them, it's not 'oh cool curiousity' it's more 'F!#@ING HELL LUCY GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS". She makes fun of the fact that I like YouTubers or how much I love my favourite bands and singers (and it's not 'lol why do you like them so much', it's more 'HOLY F!@# LUCY, STOP WASTING YOUR TIME WITH THIS CRAP, IT'S SO DUMB. DO SOMETHING ELSE. I'M TAKING YOUR IPOD' and SHE doesn't support in any way with something I've found that I love to do.

I love my mum, but I believe there should be two-way respect between kids and parents. I do everything she asks of me and beyond, in return I think she should be nice to me xD If they eventually put their foot down and be like 'NO PS4 4 U' with a very good reason then hey, no PS4 for me. I use to hold my mother's opinions in high regard, but after the past few months I'm starting to wonder if I should be doing that.

My situation is no where near as bad as many kids around the world, I'm basically just trying to explain that I do respect my mum but the respect is getting to a breaking point. I understand that my mum wants the best for me, but the stuff she says to me ain't cool man.

idek if any of that made sense all of my posts have just been me rambling on wowowowow



I'd prefer to have their permission and respect the fact that at this point in time, they don't want me to get a PS4, but still do my best to convince them to let me get one.


She's boss and I repsect that, but she still needs to be nice to her daughter if her daughter is being a good kid xD

Wow. That sounds like a very tough situation. It's quite sad that you have to go through that.

It sounds like you're having the right attitude, though. Just doing your best and carrying on like that takes a lot of courage. I think if most kids got abused like that, they would become very sad and possibly depressed. I can't even imagine what I would do if that happened to me.

She is probably acting that way because of a few reasons. First, she probably still loves you even though she doesn't show it. Parents can be really picky about their kids because they want them to conform to their idea of perfect. In doing so, they may unknowingly damage their children's self esteem. She may not just be trying to be mean, but she may also be worried about how you reflect on her as a parent, and taking it too far. There's an old saying that when "my child wins, I win".

She could also be simply using you to blame for everything and take out her anger on, which isn't nice, but we all tend to be rude to our families when we are in a bad mood. Just keep in mind that you only have to endure for a few more years, then you can go be who you want to be.

As for now, just remember that it is not others, but yourself that decides your self worth. Just from your posts on the forums, I know you are an intelligent and creative person. She may degrade you, but you can choose to remember that you know you are of great worth. Maybe some day people will come to realize that respect needs to be two-way. In the mean time, one-way respect is still better than no respect at all.

 

[Lululioness]

Wow. That sounds like a very tough situation. It's quite sad that you have to go through that.

It sounds like you're having the right attitude, though. Just doing your best and carrying on like that takes a lot of courage. I think if most kids got abused like that, they would become very sad and possibly depressed. I can't even imagine what I would do if that happened to me.

She is probably acting that way because of a few reasons. First, she probably still loves you even though she doesn't show it. Parents can be really picky about their kids because they want them to conform to their idea of perfect. In doing so, they may unknowingly damage their children's self esteem. She may not just be trying to be mean, but she may also be worried about how you reflect on her as a parent, and taking it too far. There's an old saying that when "my child wins, I win".

She could also be simply using you to blame for everything and take out her anger on, which isn't nice, but we all tend to be rude to our families when we are in a bad mood. Just keep in mind that you only have to endure for a few more years, then you can go be who you want to be.

As for now, just remember that it is not others, but yourself that decides your self worth. Just from your posts on the forums, I know you are an intelligent and creative person. She may degrade you, but you can choose to remember that you know you are of great worth. Maybe some day people will come to realize that respect needs to be two-way. In the mean time, one-way respect is still better than no respect at all.

This made my day, thank you c:
I do think she wants the best for me and isn't simply blaming me for everything, however yes, she's going the wrong way about it. Sometimes, I just tell myself she's transitioning into becoming a stereotypically grumpy old lady xD

 

[CyberSelfi]

Beg.

 

[Stevenization|Esayi]

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