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Introverts dislike small talk, and find it very tiresome and pointless.
I feel you bro ; _________ ;I match every quality of an introvert and a few of an extrovert, but not enough to consider myself an ambivert.
Above everything else, this is possibly my biggest pet peeve:
Small talk or wasting time in general is something that irritates me to no end, especially the dreaded, "Hey - Hey. What's up? - Nothing much, you?. Same." exchange that seems to start every conversation. As a lowball figure, I've probably had that conversation (or variations of it) at least 500 times. If you take into account that each of those conversations takes 8-10 seconds (depending on whether you're moving around, pausing, texting, etc), then I've wasted at least 66 to 83 minutes and learned nothing that I didn't already know.
Comments about weather and how school/work is going can all be eliminated from conversation, in my opinion. These aren't topics that advance our understanding of one another.
From my experience, any conversation that includes "why" or insinuates for someone to explain their opinion are some of the best interactions you could ever have.
In my final high school year, there was myself and a group of friends - some were going into medical studies, politics, computer science, environmental science and law - and we all had a study period (or "spare period") together. One day at the end of the year we were all sitting in the library and we had started talking about the discovery of the Higgs boson. This conversation quickly spread into other topics of "what if", why something was important, and why we felt a certain way about something. And because we were all interested in different subjects and all had different opinions, there was a lot that we learned not only about the topics, but of each other as well. And all of us loved these conversations, even if we weren't familiar with the topic at hand.
Why am I telling you this? Because I've found that you can't always expect an interesting conversation to just blatantly show up. Rather, it may be up to you to transform your boring, everyday conversations into something more meaningful. If you hate small talk, then divert your conversations away from it. Personally, I've found that asking about the other person (why they're interested in a certain field of study over something that's fairly similar, what's one of their longtime interests, etc) is a good place to start because people naturally like to talk about themselves. Just don't pressure them into answering or do it too often or you'll come off as creepy.
Socializing properly (ie. avoiding small talk) is a skill just like anything else. So you should "practice". Volunteering or getting a job where you have to interact with people is a good place to start. Working as a cashier for many years actually helped develop a skill I never thought I'd be comfortable with: public speaking. It's hard to say how your unique skills will work together, but how will you ever know if all you talk about is what the weather's like and how much "nothing" someone's done that day?
whyI match every quality of an introvert and a few of an extrovert, but not enough to consider myself an ambivert.
Above everything else, this is possibly my biggest pet peeve:
Small talk or wasting time in general is something that irritates me to no end, especially the dreaded, "Hey - Hey. What's up? - Nothing much, you?. Same." exchange that seems to start every conversation. As a lowball figure, I've probably had that conversation (or variations of it) at least 500 times. If you take into account that each of those conversations takes 8-10 seconds (depending on whether you're moving around, pausing, texting, etc), then I've wasted at least 66 to 83 minutes and learned nothing that I didn't already know.
Comments about weather and how school/work is going can all be eliminated from conversation, in my opinion. These aren't topics that advance our understanding of one another.
From my experience, any conversation that includes "why" or insinuates for someone to explain their opinion are some of the best interactions you could ever have.
In my final high school year, there was myself and a group of friends - some were going into medical studies, politics, computer science, environmental science and law - and we all had a study period (or "spare period") together. One day at the end of the year we were all sitting in the library and we had started talking about the discovery of the Higgs boson. This conversation quickly spread into other topics of "what if", why something was important, and why we felt a certain way about something. And because we were all interested in different subjects and all had different opinions, there was a lot that we learned not only about the topics, but of each other as well. And all of us loved these conversations, even if we weren't familiar with the topic at hand.
Why am I telling you this? Because I've found that you can't always expect an interesting conversation to just blatantly show up. Rather, it may be up to you to transform your boring, everyday conversations into something more meaningful. If you hate small talk, then divert your conversations away from it. Personally, I've found that asking about the other person (why they're interested in a certain field of study over something that's fairly similar, what's one of their longtime interests, etc) is a good place to start because people naturally like to talk about themselves. Just don't pressure them into answering or do it too often or you'll come off as creepy.
Socializing properly (ie. avoiding small talk) is a skill just like anything else. So you should "practice". Volunteering or getting a job where you have to interact with people is a good place to start. Working as a cashier for many years actually helped develop a skill I never thought I'd be comfortable with: public speaking. It's hard to say how your unique skills will work together, but how will you ever know if all you talk about is what the weather's like and how much "nothing" someone's done that day?
I'm sure you party hard Col_StaRFrom my observations, you're going to find tons of Introverts on the internet. That's because all the Extraverts are out there in the world, being extroverted.
Observed, calculated, and analyzed like a true INTJ introvert. You can tell I'm a blast at parties.
every party is a true party with colStarFrom my observations, you're going to find tons of Introverts on the internet. That's because all the Extraverts are out there in the world, being extroverted.
Observed, calculated, and analyzed like a true INTJ introvert. You can tell I'm a blast at parties.