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Fireized

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I'm not a very social person. I've always been a bit of a loner, and it has worked out well for me. Recently, I've been going to this one week long summer camp. My life has pretty much sucked lately in a ton of different aspects. I won't go into the details. This camp is a 6-hour escape for me, and tomorrow is the last day. There's a girl there that I almost immediately made friends with. She seemed to trust me pretty fast, too. She gave me her iPhone when she had to go do something and she had nowhere to put it, and other things. She is a beautiful girl, about my age, athletic, and friendly. I'm pretty sure she might have liked me a little bit too. Today I found out from some other kids that she has a boyfriend. (Before I go any further, please don't label me as that one kid who asked for dating advice on the forums, it's not about that.) She seems pretty happy. This was the very first time I actually thought that I could have something going.... but no. Whenever something like this happens, life slaps me in the face as if to say @#$% YOU!!!!

Right now I'm just sitting here. I have no interest in anything, and I feel like I would give almost anything in the world to be able to just have more time to talk to her without worrying if she's in a relationship. I am blandly playing game after game, dying over and over. I can't motivate myself to record a video for Youtube either. People on Skype don't know why I'm not talking. All this because of a girl I've known for 4 days.

Again, I'm sorry for posting something like this on a gaming forum, I don't really want to visit those dating advice websites...
I literally have no idea what to do. My life is falling apart before my eyes. I could make a completely different thread about my life the past few months. MCSG was my only escape from it, for the most part. Now I seem to have absolutely no interest in it whatsoever, or Minecraft itself.

Aside from a that, as I said, my life is basically a trash can. I have like one friend that I never get to see. Even now that it's summer I have no fun... I posted a goodbye thread if anyone cares...
 
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Nearly every single guy in the world at one time or another has seen a girl they found attractive and, as it happened, she was dating another guy. I'm surprised this is the first time it's happened to you. That being said, I wouldn't even consider you in "depression", it more so seems to be a state of mind you've put yourself in. That being said, it can be hard to have that happen: especially with a girl/guy you felt close to or felt you had a connection.

Just remember that at such an early juncture in your life girls break up and date new guys faster than you'd think. I knew a girl in my highschool who would literally go from guy to guy, dating them for about a month each. Don't beat yourself up over it.

My personal advice to you is to keep a friendly bond going on between you, don't stop talking with her. Just remember that sometimes girls do want to be friends: and that's not a bad thing. Yes, you're technically in the "friend-zone": but being close to a girl will eventually have her develop feelings for her. If you don't talk to her until she breaks up with the guy she's dating it will come across extremely desperate and on top of that the feelings you could have been developing for the months in between her breakup will be non-existent.
 

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Nearly every single guy in the world at one time or another has seen a girl they found attractive and, as it happened, she was dating another guy. I'm surprised this is the first time it's happened to you. That being said, I wouldn't even consider you in "depression", it more so seems to be a state of mind you've put yourself in. That being said, it can be hard to have that happen: especially with a girl/guy you felt close to or felt you had a connection.

Just remember that at such an early juncture in your life girls break up and date new guys faster than you'd think. I knew a girl in my highschool who would literally go from guy to guy, dating them for about a month each. Don't beat yourself up over it.

My personal advice to you is to keep a friendly bond going on between you, don't stop talking with her. Just remember that sometimes girls do want to be friends: and that's not a bad thing. Yes, you're technically in the "friend-zone": but being close to a girl will eventually have her develop feelings for her. If you don't talk to her until she breaks up with the guy she's dating it will come across extremely desperate and on top of that the feelings you could have been developing for the months in between her breakup will be non-existent.
I'm not just upset because of her, like I said, my whole life has been horrible lately on a number of different levels. Thanks for the advice though :)
 

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I'm not just upset because of her, like I said, my whole life has been horrible lately on a number of different levels. Thanks for the advice though :)
Ah, I misunderstood you. I thought you were saying that you were depressed just because of her: I was about to cry "Overreaction of the year" :p
Best of luck bud!
Yeah, teenage relationships last about as long as a game on solar frost...
If I could like a post one million times this would be the one
 

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I could be mistaken here, but it sounds like your life has become very bland and dull due to things that have gone wrong. You have to keep going and always be willing to give life a second go. No matter how many times you have been betrayed or you have failed at things, you can always succeed elsewhere. You may think that some people breeze through life and find what they want, and achieve it very quickly without troubles. If that is what you think, then you are 100% wrong.

In regards to your female friend, I would recommend that you just stay in "friend" mode for as long as you can. I have female friends who I have been friends with for several years. It is not hard to stay friends with someone if you avoid drama and don't try to push things too far. When something goes wrong, forgive and forget. Just be a kind friend to people of both genders and you will find yourself much happier as a teenager. If you want to ask a girl on a date, they probably won't refuse if you have been friends with them for a year.

Even if you are not very social, you can probably find some people with similar interests who could be fun to hang out with. I think that the whole "boyfriend/girlfriend" image is a recipe for misery and drama rather than happiness for a teenager. That doesn't mean you shouldn't date.

As for the other aspects of your life, just carry on a bit longer. It really sucks being 15 years old, trust me. Things can always get better. Don't give up on what you love to do. Try to find wholesome hobbies besides MCSG to occupy your time. Don't ever doubt the fact that you want to live, as your life is a precious gem. There was an eternity of time before you lived, and there will be an eternity of time afterwards. Your life is finite, however. Even when it sucks, you must explore the amazing aspects of the universe and learn as much as you can. There is much to live for, and you can singlehandedly change the world for better or worse.

Quote from "The Fault in Our Stars":
"There is an infinite number of numbers before the number one, and there is an infinite number of numbers after the number two. There is also an infinite number of numbers between 1 and 2." If this week is all there is to your relationship, then the start of this week could be 1, and the end could be 2.
 

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Is this clinical depression or just straight-forward emotion depression?

Either way, PM me if you need to talk anytime.
 

Fireized

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I could be mistaken here, but it sounds like your life has become very bland and dull due to things that have gone wrong. You have to keep going and always be willing to give life a second go. No matter how many times you have been betrayed or you have failed at things, you can always succeed elsewhere. You may think that some people breeze through life and find what they want, and achieve it very quickly without troubles. If that is what you think, then you are 100% wrong.

In regards to your female friend, I would recommend that you just stay in "friend" mode for as long as you can. I have female friends who I have been friends with for several years. It is not hard to stay friends with someone if you avoid drama and don't try to push things too far. When something goes wrong, forgive and forget. Just be a kind friend to people of both genders and you will find yourself much happier as a teenager. If you want to ask a girl on a date, they probably won't refuse if you have been friends with them for a year.

Even if you are not very social, you can probably find some people with similar interests who could be fun to hang out with. I think that the whole "boyfriend/girlfriend" image is a recipe for misery and drama rather than happiness for a teenager. That doesn't mean you shouldn't date.

As for the other aspects of your life, just carry on a bit longer. It really sucks being 15 years old, trust me. Things can always get better. Don't give up on what you love to do. Try to find wholesome hobbies besides MCSG to occupy your time. Don't ever doubt the fact that you want to live, as your life is a precious gem. There was an eternity of time before you lived, and there will be an eternity of time afterwards. Your life is finite, however. Even when it sucks, you must explore the amazing aspects of the universe and learn as much as you can. There is much to live for, and you can singlehandedly change the world for better or worse.

Quote from "The Fault in Our Stars":
"There is an infinite number of numbers before the number one, and there is an infinite number of numbers after the number two. There is also an infinite number of numbers between 1 and 2." If this week is all there is to your relationship, then the start of this week could be 1, and the end could be 2.
I'm not 15, funnily enough. Not sure what made my set my profile to say I was 15, and I never bothered to ask a staff member to change it. Thank you for the support <3
 

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