What type of parent do you want to be when you grow up?

[BoostMeGaming]

^ Title says it

For me, I'd like to be a working father that encourages my children to play and meet online friends, cuz I'm cool like that, and back when my parents were children, they didn't have this technology that we have today so they don't know what they expect from the "Internet".

 

[Bamber]

Just like my own paren-

JK NO! Honestly, my parents raised a mess.

I'd like to be a kind father, who appreciates my kid and pays attention to them. I would like to enforce proper study time and play time, while not having the two mix.

Plus, I'd force em to do sports and other things such as pick up an intrument, join a club, ect.




I really want to try to not make them do all the chores I was made to do, but at the same time don't want them to get too spoiled. Idk, I'm going to think of a happy medium for that.

 

[BoostMeGaming]

Just like my own paren-

JK NO! Honestly, my parents raised a mess.

I'd like to be a kind father, who appreciates my kid and pays attention to them. I would like to enforce proper study time and play time, while not having the two mix.

Plus, I'd force em to do sports and other things such as pick up an intrument, join a club, ect.




I really want to try to not make them do all the chores I was made to do, but at the same time don't want them to get too spoiled. Idk, I'm going to think of a happy medium for that.

Tbh, I already planned some kind of grounding mechanism xD depending what they did, they have to do a number of chores before they get ungrounded, I thought It was a good idea

 

[RC_4777]

Probably like mine actually. I want my kids to try different things in sports and extracurricular activities. I'd make sure that they have a good work ethic for school and give some chores according to age and capability, with allowance of course. I want to try to do stuff with them and have a good relationship, but I won't let them behave badly.

 

[BoostMeGaming]

Probably like mine actually. I want my kids to try different things in sports and extracurricular activities. I'd make sure that they have a good work ethic for school and give some chores according to age and capability, with allowance of course. I want to try to do stuff with them and have a good relationship, but I won't let them behave badly.

How would you react if they told you, they met online friends on the internet

 

[RC_4777]

How would you react if they told you, they met online friends on the internet

It'd depend on how the kid was. If they were a responsible and smart person, no problem. Also, the age of my kid would be important.

 

[Blazerboy | Noah]

Not like my father.

 

[Deformed]

Sort of like 'Bad Grandpa', but father form.

 

[Mamiamato24]

Actually not like my father at all...
He tried to enforce me playing sports, but not enough since I haven't touched a sport in around five years. I also want to be a father that encourages good habits to my children, that isn't stubborn and listens to what his children have to say in certain situations, and that doesn't smoke cigarettes on a daily basis. My father was also an immigrant from Italy, and never actually cared/did well in school, so I sort of developed the habit of putting my schoolwork first on my own. I want to encourage my children to put their education first and foremost in life at a young age. And pretty much every other quality stated in this thread. I don't hate my father, I just think he didn't expect how raising a child would be, since he pretty much stays in his garage, on his computer or watches movies when he's not a work...by himself, so my mother's really the person that taught me most of the stuff that I do today. Even expressions I say and habits that I've been accustomed to.

 

[Mooclan]

My own father was bi-polar. Yes, bipolar. Clinically. He would be violently angry one minute, and then an hour later he would look really sorry and apologize and ask for a hug.
I want to be nothing like that, and so far I'm on the right track.


I understand that by the time I am a parent, things will be different. Different standards of living, curfews, teen behavior, etc. and I'll adjust my standards likewise.
Traits that I want and examples of situations and how I want to handle them in the future

• A good listener - I want my kids to be able to tell me their issues, and know that I'm not going to flip the principle's car unless he suspends someone. I want to be the type of dad that can be relied on to deal with the situation appropriately and without embarrassing or putting my child at risk of more bullying.
• Chill - How do I put it... I'd like to be regarded as a "cool" parent, if that makes sense. Not a parent that will let them party every Friday, but I understand that kids want freedom, and I'd like to be able to encourage my kids to grow how they want to. I'm not going to let them have casual "intimate relationships" either, but if they are in a strong relationship with a faithful partner after the age of 16-18 (maturity factors in) then I'm not going to outright stop them.. but I will have The Talk with them at an appropriate age.
• Religious Freedom - I personally don't like going to church. However, I know that it's right, and when I grow up I'll get used to it. So I'm probably going to teach my kids about the religion that I believe in, but if they come to me one day and say that they have doubts about it, I'll be willing to talk to them and try to work something out.
• Strict at the right times - Alcohol, curfew, groundings. No alcohol without adult supervision, and even then only in moderation. Must be back home by 11, if they want an extension for a few nights then they have to ask me. If they get in trouble, their electronics get taken away, internet gets unplugged, and Netflix password is changed.
• Safety First - I'm not talking about that type of safety (you dirty minded person) I mean physical safety. If they're getting bullied at school, I'll approach the principle asking him/her to find out who's doing it and why/how, and to deal with it accordingly. They will be allowed to get their driver's license/permit, but only after they pass an exam from ME as well, AND they take extra safety driving courses. If I buy them a car, it has to be one with extra safety features and they must be comfortable with it. If they buy one, it has to be approved by me.

gottagothnx4readingkbye

 

[Mooclan]

My own father was bi-polar. Yes, bipolar. Clinically. He would be violently angry one minute, and then an hour later he would look really sorry and apologize and ask for a hug.
I want to be nothing like that, and so far I'm on the right track.


I understand that by the time I am a parent, things will be different. Different standards of living, curfews, teen behavior, etc. and I'll adjust my standards likewise.
Traits that I want and examples of situations and how I want to handle them in the future

• A good listener - I want my kids to be able to tell me their issues, and know that I'm not going to flip the principle's car unless he suspends someone. I want to be the type of dad that can be relied on to deal with the situation appropriately and without embarrassing or putting my child at risk of more bullying.
• Chill - How do I put it... I'd like to be regarded as a "cool" parent, if that makes sense. Not a parent that will let them party every Friday, but I understand that kids want freedom, and I'd like to be able to encourage my kids to grow how they want to. I'm not going to let them have casual "intimate relationships" either, but if they are in a strong relationship with a faithful partner after the age of 16-18 (maturity factors in) then I'm not going to outright stop them.. but I will have The Talk with them at an appropriate age.
• Religious Freedom - I personally don't like going to church. However, I know that it's right, and when I grow up I'll get used to it. So I'm probably going to teach my kids about the religion that I believe in, but if they come to me one day and say that they have doubts about it, I'll be willing to talk to them and try to work something out.
• Strict at the right times - Alcohol, curfew, groundings. No alcohol without adult supervision, and even then only in moderation. Must be back home by 11, if they want an extension for a few nights then they have to ask me. If they get in trouble, their electronics get taken away, internet gets unplugged, and Netflix password is changed.
• Safety First - I'm not talking about that type of safety (you dirty minded person) I mean physical safety. If they're getting bullied at school, I'll approach the principle asking him/her to find out who's doing it and why/how, and to deal with it accordingly. They will be allowed to get their driver's license/permit, but only after they pass an exam from ME as well, AND they take extra safety driving courses. If I buy them a car, it has to be one with extra safety features and they must be comfortable with it. If they buy one, it has to be approved by me.

gottagothnx4readingkbye

 

[Lululioness]

(I'll probably one of those parents who tries to keep up with the times but miserably fails.)