A little bit about me (an opinionative rant about friendship)

[Mamiamato24]

Hi!

If you've been browsing the forums for a decent period of time, and you've happened to find me somewhere along the way of your search for new threads to reply to, you'd see that I don't really share very much about myself to people. Well...okay....my opinion about things going on in the McGamer community, songs I like and other...well..not very private things. The only private pieces of information I've delivered were my age (somewhat), my forename and my country of residence. After residing on these forums for over two years, three months and nine days, I've decided to tell you a bit more about myself. I think you guys deserve to know a bit more about me, and if you don't care to continue then stop reading this now.

"Hey Marco, why don't you go hang out at your friend's house? How about one of your friends?" my mother inquires on a regular basis.

"Meh...I'm not really up to it." I respond to her question as usual. Wow, it definitely seems as if I'm never up to it. My mother pays little attention to it.

Okay, if you haven't caught the catch within my stupid paraphrased quotes, I'm very...well..not necessarily anti-social. But to a certain extent. I am capable to talking to my friends sort of comfortably, as well as regular people, but...well...I don't like to. I'm not the kind of person that likes to spend very much time with their friends...or even any time at all for that matter. Which is why I've ended up with a net worth of exactly one close friend, and one semi-close friend.

My mother insists I try to maintain connections to them, but I explain that as long as you have yourself in life, and your are comfortable with yourself and who you are, you will always be well off. You are the only person who is always there for you. Maybe this is an anti-friend pessimistic attitude, but this is how I see it. And I don't seem to understand the whole concept of a friend - is a friend someone that you go out and have coffees with and attend festivals and have sleepovers at their houses? Or is it truly someone who you have a special connection with? And if the latter is true, then would it really matter if you attend fireworks, or watch horror movies together, or take a walk to the nearest ice cream parlour? It shouldn't, right?

And if you're just...doing stuff....what's the use of that? Then what's the use of a friend? To have someone to talk to? Why not bring your mother over? Or your grandmother? They'll be glad to discuss your childhood silliness and stupidity with you, as you blush while recollecting seemingly ancient memories. Are we stuck in a society where the amount of friends you have determines...anything? I know what a lot of people think, and that is; it's better to have a few close friends than many okay-sub-par-friends, but is there just a possibility that you can't seem to find a friend that suits you?

In my entire life, I've never found anyone with the same or close, for that matter, interests as I do? Am I an abnormal alien creature that is unable to find someone with similar likes and dislikes as me? Well...I like video games, many different ones...racing games, action games, and....well...Playstation Home. I like music too...dubstep, d&b, rock to a certain extent....and....Frozen(slay). I like to be sassy, and it's just my thing. I like to make jokes, and I assure myself to include some sarcasm whenever I can.

"What are you doing up there in your room sitting in front of your computer screen on your pink chair with your game running?" a profoundly obvious question escapes my parent's mouth.

"Oh you know...eating horses. Not much." sarcasm at it's finest, is it not? I am truly a master at what I do.

I've met people along my journey of life....and I don't know what happened to around ninety percent of them. Some turned out to be weird people and sent to private schools all the way across the city, some got sucked into the popularity scheme and God knows what they're up to...who knows, maybe they're smoking in a dark alley. For all I know they could be dead. It's hard, it really is.

I was never a person that really cared how many friends I have. A number like that is extremely arbitrary and represents nothing, which is why I despise people that have a billion Facebook friends but knows less than ninety percent of them. What is the use of having all those friends??? A stupid arbitrary numeral shouldn't express how you are as a person...and oh wow you have seven thousand friends, you must have such an amazing personality. You must be such an honest, caring and loving friend. I totally see why everybody loves you around here. But..you know...sometimes I get influenced and I hop on the scheme bandwagon and start accepting a ton of invitations from people I have not a single clue of. That's life, isn't it? Well...definitely not a phase I'm proud of.

In the end, life isn't just about trying to acquire friends, it's the least of the matter. Food, water, shelter and a loving family are far more important to me.

If there's one thing that is one of them most important things today, and has not resulted in me going completely insane and probably falling into depression after the realization of my loneliness, is the MCSG community and all the wonderful people in it. Oh god, this turned into a cheesy thank-you thread...definitely not what I wanted. Oh too damn bad. I just want to let you know that everyone here is important, and even if you're not the most popular person, you don't have the most posts or likes, you don't have the most skype contacts, the highest rank, or any of that garbage nonsense, you're all important. c:

Sorry this turned into cheesy garbage, I can't control myself....
Well I don't know what this thread turned out to be but hopefully it's something interesting.

~Mami

P.S. I don't know if this should be in community corner or not, and if it should, then feel free to move it. When in doubt, the off topic section!

 

[Ikanacanyon7]

Hi!

If you've been browsing the forums for a decent period of time, and you've happened to find me somewhere along the way of your search for new threads to reply to, you'd see that I don't really share very much about myself to people. Well...okay....my opinion about things going on in the McGamer community, songs I like and other...well..not very private things. The only private pieces of information I've delivered were my age (somewhat), my forename and my country of residence. After residing on these forums for over two years, three months and nine days, I've decided to tell you a bit more about myself. I think you guys deserve to know a bit more about me, and if you don't care to continue then stop reading this now.

"Hey Marco, why don't you go hang out at your friend's house? How about one of your friends?" my mother inquires on a regular basis.

"Meh...I'm not really up to it." I respond to her question as usual. Wow, it definitely seems as if I'm never up to it. My mother pays little attention to it.

Okay, if you haven't caught the catch within my stupid paraphrased quotes, I'm very...well..not necessarily anti-social. But to a certain extent. I am capable to talking to my friends sort of comfortably, as well as regular people, but...well...I don't like to. I'm not the kind of person that likes to spend very much time with their friends...or even any time at all for that matter. Which is why I've ended up with a net worth of exactly one close friend, and one semi-close friend.

My mother insists I try to maintain connections to them, but I explain that as long as you have yourself in life, and your are comfortable with yourself and who you are, you will always be well off. You are the only person who is always there for you. Maybe this is an anti-friend pessimistic attitude, but this is how I see it. And I don't seem to understand the whole concept of a friend - is a friend someone that you go out and have coffees with and attend festivals and have sleepovers at their houses? Or is it truly someone who you have a special connection with? And if the latter is true, then would it really matter if you attend fireworks, or watch horror movies together, or take a walk to the nearest ice cream parlour? It shouldn't, right?

And if you're just...doing stuff....what's the use of that? Then what's the use of a friend? To have someone to talk to? Why not bring your mother over? Or your grandmother? They'll be glad to discuss your childhood silliness and stupidity with you, as you blush while recollecting seemingly ancient memories. Are we stuck in a society where the amount of friends you have determines...anything? I know what a lot of people think, and that is; it's better to have a few close friends than many okay-sub-par-friends, but is there just a possibility that you can't seem to find a friend that suits you?

In my entire life, I've never found anyone with the same or close, for that matter, interests as I do? Am I an abnormal alien creature that is unable to find someone with similar likes and dislikes as me? Well...I like video games, many different ones...racing games, action games, and....well...Playstation Home. I like music too...dubstep, d&b, rock to a certain extent....and....Frozen(slay). I like to be sassy, and it's just my thing. I like to make jokes, and I assure myself to include some sarcasm whenever I can.

"What are you doing up there in your room sitting in front of your computer screen on your pink chair with your game running?" a profoundly obvious question escapes my parent's mouth.

"Oh you know...eating horses. Not much." sarcasm at it's finest, is it not? I am truly a master at what I do.

I've met people along my journey of life....and I don't know what happened to around ninety percent of them. Some turned out to be weird people and sent to private schools all the way across the city, some got sucked into the popularity scheme and God knows what they're up to...who knows, maybe they're smoking in a dark alley. For all I know they could be dead. It's hard, it really is.

I was never a person that really cared how many friends I have. A number like that is extremely arbitrary and represents nothing, which is why I despise people that have a billion Facebook friends but knows less than ninety percent of them. What is the use of having all those friends??? A stupid arbitrary numeral shouldn't express how you are as a person...and oh wow you have seven thousand friends, you must have such an amazing personality. You must be such an honest, caring and loving friend. I totally see why everybody loves you around here. But..you know...sometimes I get influenced and I hop on the scheme bandwagon and start accepting a ton of invitations from people I have not a single clue of. That's life, isn't it? Well...definitely not a phase I'm proud of.

In the end, life isn't just about trying to acquire friends, it's the least of the matter. Food, water, shelter and a loving family are far more important to me.

If there's one thing that is one of them most important things today, and has not resulted in me going completely insane and probably falling into depression after the realization of my loneliness, is the MCSG community and all the wonderful people in it. Oh god, this turned into a cheesy thank-you thread...definitely not what I wanted. Oh too damn bad. I just want to let you know that everyone here is important, and even if you're not the most popular person, you don't have the most posts or likes, you don't have the most skype contacts, the highest rank, or any of that garbage nonsense, you're all important. c:

Sorry this turned into cheesy garbage, I can't control myself....
Well I don't know what this thread turned out to be but hopefully it's something interesting.

~Mami

P.S. I don't know if this should be in community corner or not, and if it should, then feel free to move it. When in doubt, the off topic section!

We think a lot alike, more than you would think! You are not alone! While I do not necesarily have the same view on the point of having friends I do share my hatred towards the obsession people have with numbers and amounts. My group of IRL friends is not big, but they are who Im happy being friends with, they share some of my interests and humor, ect.
Just like you, Im not necesarily anti-social, but Im not extremely socaible either (something my family still does not seem to understand). I only see and hang out with my friends, thats it. And yet those around me worry I dont go out and meet new people, but maybe they just dont think about the fact I dont want to, I dont like talking to people I dont know just as much as I dont like to be around those unknown to me but that does not mean I cant talk to them, just that I dont enjoy it.
I totally get how you feel man, youll find people that arent necearily identical to you, but that you share things in common enough to have them as friends.

One thing you said and Ill quote it separately:

Food, water, shelter and a loving family are far more important to me.

Here's where I can give you how I see the point of having friends. In a sence, your friends are your family out of home, the family which you are not related by blood, but rather by personality, intersts, humor, etc. (and yes this sounded extremely cheesy xD)

Hopefully you can think of that!

 

[Jockstah]

Can you have a TL;DR version?

 

[Ikanacanyon7]

Can you have a TL;DR version?

I dont mean to be rude but, if you are actually interested in what he wrote, then dont ask for a TL;DR.

if you don't care to continue then stop reading this now.

 

[KorStonesword]

"What are you doing up there in your room sitting in front of your computer screen on your pink chair with your game running?" a profoundly obvious question escapes my parent's mouth.

"Oh you know...eating horses. Not much." sarcasm at it's finest, is it not? I am truly a master at what I do.

And that, my friend, is what gets you slapped.

Yeah I can see where you're coming from, as I'm a somewhat anti-social person myself. Especially when I get very creative, I can spend hours on end just focusing on making videos / drawings. I personally find it's very important to have friends despite this, as these are the people that save you when you're going through hard times or you're depressed. I don't honestly believe that there isn't a single person in the world who doesn't benefit from having at least one friend, and if they don't then it's probably not the right person to be in a friendship with.

At least for me, I have plenty of 'Friends' (my religion causes me to socialize a lot) but I have a set group of about 2 or 3 people who are truly my friends. These are people I'd tell most things, that I'm rarely not in the mood to chat with, and they are the people I can actually hold a conversation with. The truth of it is you may not have just found a truly good friend, and who wants to hang out with people they share no interests with / find annoying? (And I have some friends like that, I tend to try to avoid hanging out with them.)

 

[Voei]

I hate how my parents don't understand that I actually ENJOY being alone... I do have friends but I'd honesty rather spend the day locked in my room listening to music and playing games. Why would I force myself to do something I don't find fun?

 

[demonsushi]

That is one of the most interesting things I have read. I believe we are what is considered polar opposites. I need to meet other people, learn from them and see their faults. It's how I learn and grow. I observe others and take their positive qualities and try to emulate them, while learning their faults and avoiding them. Strange? Maybe. But we all seem to be like that.

 

[QualiaV2]

ITT; growing up to be socially awkward

 

[Ikanacanyon7]

Id like to add one thing, especially on the Facebook topic. People nowadays seem to have completely mixed up the term "acquaintance" with "friend", facebook is a big reason this happens.

 

[Zaex]

For me, IRL, I only have 1-2 people I would truly call my friends. Otherwise, like what Ikana said, others are just acquaintances of mine. Online, I broaden out a tad bit. Some of my close friends there are Mooclan , OptionsFinest , Sarchikani Mathias, and SilentNative. (Just as a small group, like MCSG or League) Otherwise, as one may tell, everyone else..yes, I do talk to them, and I have a good relationship with them, but I don't ask to do things as much, or hang out w/ them as often.

 

[Mooclan]

*YAY* WALL OF TEXT!

You seem to be quite an interesting person. Similar to me in that you're anti-social, sarcastic, sassy, and even a hermit who despises other people.
I, for one, have literally no friends remaining in the real world. Sure, I have old friends that I still have on Facebook and whatnot, but do I actually talk to them? No.
All of the friends that I have, and most acquaintances, are online. Well, not "online", but that's how I meet with them - through the web, on virtual platforms. Even then, I have very "friends". Most of the people that I know, I consider them "acquaintances on good terms".

Marco, having few friends (IRL) isn't a bad thing. Sure, it may mean you're lonely most of the time, but there's other ways to fill that social void. How have I done it? By making friends online. I'm not particularly concerned with the issue of pedos, creepers, stalkers, etc., so I don't really think about that when I first meet anyone for the first time, possibly because most of the people that I come into contact with already have some form of reputation or verifiable identity.

Being a person who has, or rather had, over 250 Skype contacts at one point, I can personally say that it really doesn't mean a whole lot. If anything, it's a bother, as I used to have to scroll for like a full minute just to get to the end of my list, unless I remembered the name of the person that I was looking for.
Having a lot of friends is a lot less nice than having good friends. With 200-some contacts, I talked to maybe... what, 10 of those? A few of them just wanted to add me for a single event, some of them sent contact requests just because we happened to be in the same group chat. I didn't even really know them!
I make sure to keep a fine line between friend and acquaintance. For example, Zaex is one of my friends. You, Mamiamato, I consider an acquaintance that I am on good terms with. We don't really talk to each other much, or at all, but we know each other somewhat, and we're able to crack a few jokes and enjoy each others' company. (Sorry I don't mean to offend you Marco, I meant this in the most positive way possible)




oh, and may I remind you of that time when you were on my server, and my reaction was something along the lines of...
"OH MAH GOSH ITS MAMIAMATO24 CAN I HAVE YOUR AUTOGRAPH"
or something like that.

 

[Mamiamato24]

I hate how my parents don't understand that I actually ENJOY being alone... I do have friends but I'd honesty rather spend the day locked in my room listening to music and playing games. Why would I force myself to do something I don't find fun?

This is basically what I meant to say in a shorter paragraph xD
But seriously, my parents don't seem to understand how these things give me pleasure (video games, foruming, etc.). They think the only thing that can give me pleasure is going out with my friends. I guess they really don't know me too well xD

Id like to add one thing, especially on the Facebook topic. People nowadays seem to have completely mixed up the term "acquaintance" with "friend", facebook is a big reason this happens.

That is true, but even still, some people have the they're not-so-close friend's uncle's dentist as a friend on Facebook and it just boggles my mind xD

*YAY* WALL OF TEXT!

You seem to be quite an interesting person. Similar to me in that you're anti-social, sarcastic, sassy, and even a hermit who despises other people.
I, for one, have literally no friends remaining in the real world. Sure, I have old friends that I still have on Facebook and whatnot, but do I actually talk to them? No.
All of the friends that I have, and most acquaintances, are online. Well, not "online", but that's how I meet with them - through the web, on virtual platforms. Even then, I have very "friends". Most of the people that I know, I consider them "acquaintances on good terms".

Marco, having few friends (IRL) isn't a bad thing. Sure, it may mean you're lonely most of the time, but there's other ways to fill that social void. How have I done it? By making friends online. I'm not particularly concerned with the issue of pedos, creepers, stalkers, etc., so I don't really think about that when I first meet anyone for the first time, possibly because most of the people that I come into contact with already have some form of reputation or verifiable identity.

Being a person who has, or rather had, over 250 Skype contacts at one point, I can personally say that it really doesn't mean a whole lot. If anything, it's a bother, as I used to have to scroll for like a full minute just to get to the end of my list, unless I remembered the name of the person that I was looking for.
Having a lot of friends is a lot less nice than having good friends. With 200-some contacts, I talked to maybe... what, 10 of those? A few of them just wanted to add me for a single event, some of them sent contact requests just because we happened to be in the same group chat. I didn't even really know them!
I make sure to keep a fine line between friend and acquaintance. For example, Zaex is one of my friends. You, Mamiamato, I consider an acquaintance that I am on good terms with. We don't really talk to each other much, or at all, but we know each other somewhat, and we're able to crack a few jokes and enjoy each others' company. (Sorry I don't mean to offend you Marco, I meant this in the most positive way possible)




oh, and may I remind you of that time when you were on my server, and my reaction was something along the lines of...
"OH MAH GOSH ITS MAMIAMATO24 CAN I HAVE YOUR AUTOGRAPH"
or something like that.

Haha it's alright, and I know we haven't really spoken to each other very much, or even at all, but we do have some memories together (cough cough MCSG Battle).

And I remember how you reacted, I found it really silly because I only had around two wins at the time and I was very confused as to why I was receiving praise xD You also mentioned I was an MCSG pro

Anyway, I'm too lazy to reply to everything you said there but it definitely was interesting to read and I feel better knowing that I'm not the only one of my kind

**And by your definition of an acquaintance-on-good-terms, I literally have no "real" friends on here as well. But I like the company of everyone.**