A Guide- Bullying

[Eloquent]

Here is a guide that I have made to help others from bullying.

Important- Bullying is not teasing, teasing is when another tries to provoke you in a playful way. Bullying is either making fun of another's race, appearance or religion, physically/emotionally/mentally hurting another or using superiority to make another do something.

1- Emotionally,
When a bully tries to hurt you emotionally they will target your race, religion or appearance. What they say will get to you, if it does do not let them see that it does. If they do see that's when they know that they have found someone that will be affected by them and they will not stop. Another way to make them stop is turning what they say into a joke or merely laughing at it. If they think that all they're doing is amusing you, why would they continue? The last way is just to walk away, if they follow you just block them out. Go to your friends and just play with them.
2- Mentally,
Most of emotionally fits in with mentally, but I will cover one specific thing in this paragraph. If someone either bullies you into making yourself want to commit suicide / do self harm or says something along the lines of "go die" and you get a suicidal mindset they'll continue. If you ever do have a suicidal mindset just remember what you have in life, loving family, fantastic friends or just food and water. Remember that you can be something great and if your bully continues on his path he'll have ruined himself.
3- Physically,
Bullying someone physically can be pushing another around to beating someone. Either is just a serious if you are be pushed around it can lead to the bully thinking it's ok and beating people. If you are being physically bullied you need to tell someone (not to be cliche), do not fight back unless completely needed. Fighting back will just aggravate the bully more.
4- Miscellaneous,
If you are being bullied because you have a different skin colour, religious outlook or are homosexual/bisexual it's not acceptable. To stop this sometimes you can merely ask "what's wrong with looking different?" and similar statements for the others. This can stop the bully as they may have no answer. However if they continue once again ignore what they're are saying, just walk away.
5- Cyber-Bullying,
Cyber-bullying is when another hurts you verbally through the internet. Swearing at you, saying things that effect you or just making you feel terrible. There are many things you can do to prevent cyber-bullying, blocking the person that's bullying you, ignoring them or just plainly turning off your computer.

P.S- If you are being bullied always try to tell someone.
P.P.S- If you have anything to add, comment.
P.P.P.S- Mods move this if it's in the wrong section.

 

[Ag | Alex]

That was really nicely put. I myself don't get bullied, but this is a really great guide for people that do and for anyone who might ever experience bullying.

 

[Eloquent]

That was really nicely put. I myself don't get bullied, but this is a really great guide for people that do and for anyone who might ever experience bullying.

Thanks! I do know that lots of people from the community have been bullied, so why not try to help them through it! Thanks for the input.

 

[Mooclan]

As I just said over Skype, this thread is really awesome. And I appreciate the message on a personal level, as well.

A few personal additions:

With Cyberbullying, another thing that they can do is hurt your relationships.
A bully, if they're motivated and well-connected, can spread false (Or partially false) information. Or, if you have something that you want to hide or try to recover from, they can bring it to the surface again in order to hurt you.

Here's an example:
If you once had feelings of dislike towards someone that was now your friend, the cyberbully might find (or falsely create) messages from you to another person, saying things such as, "Ugh, I hate (Name) so much. They're such a #@$% person," and they can make it look as though it's a legitimate message if they try hard enough.
Spreading these messages, and similar harmful information, can really hurt relationships between the victim and their family/friends.


Over the past two days, I've been on the MCGamer TeamSpeak a bit, and I met a fellow, who I'm going to call John for his privacy.
He's homosexual (or bisexual), and was joking around that he found my voice appealing.
I don't know exactly why, but a lot of homo/bisexual males have higher voices, and "John" does too.
On TeamSpeak, there were many people who thought that John was using a voice changer or falsetto voice. When I first met him, I was a bit suspicious too, but after he did a few standard tests to make sure that he wasn't, it became clear that it was his natural voice.
However, whenever someone new came into the channel, John was often accused of using a voice changer, and I had to defend him on multiple occasions in my most serious tone of voice.
And the worst part about it?
I think he was afraid to openly admit that he has a different sexuality from the 'average' person.
:/
And so the abuse and false accusations continued, flowing like wine from the mouths of rude, ignorant players... and cyberbullying, along with it.


Often, physical bullying can go beyond shoves and punches.
As a relatively skinny 15-year old, 5'9" and ~110 pounds, I'm not exactly the most intimidating guy in the school, if you catch my drift. (hehe, until they hear me lecture them with words that even their parents don't know... )
Throughout my childhood, I've been exposed to both major and minor forms of physical bullying. I've been in fights and scuffles, but I've also had jocks try to do small but malicious actions, and it's those small but frequent abusive bits of annoyance which have turned me into the unusual and socially hated person that I am today.
In Middle School, there was a group of bullies who pinched me repeatedly. It sounds weird, but that was actually their version of physically bullying me. It didn't stop until I had a major confrontation with them outside of school grounds, and 'taught them a lesson'. I regret that I chose that method to stop the bullying, but it was the most effective and efficient way to stop the bullying.
(Pro tip: If you harm me or someone close to me, you're essentially a slab of uncooked meat in my eyes, and I will thoroughly roast you without hesitation.)


Adding on to my comments on cyberbullying,
One way that I find to be particularly satisfying is making the opposing party back down.
Intimidate them, outsmart them, and prove your dominance.
This is more of a personal method, due to my way of speaking and ability to make myself sound very formal, plus my decently deep voice.
I've used this numerous times on TeamSpeak, with varying degrees of success. These are mostly tips for if you're being bullied on the MCGamer TeamSpeak, but can be adapted to other situations. I once used similar ideas to defend my younger sister and her friend from a "twelvie" who was trying to harass them.
~ Stand your ground! Do not show weakness, or else any decent troll will be able to build upon that and mount a counter-attack.
~ Big words confuse people. If you're dealing with a young teenager or pre-teen who is trying to bully you online, they're probably not particularly advanced in the vocabulary and maturity departments, and you can spin circles around them by using larger words and having a very mature, older tone of voice. (Deeper voice helps!!)
~ Show that you have friends in high places. If you're on TeamSpeak and are dealing with trolls, call in a Moderator who you know, or a friend with a deep voice who sounds really mature. It might sound like cheating in a verbal sparring session, but "All is fair in love and war."
~ Don't be afraid to call for help, or 'tattle'. If someone is breaking a rule, you're justified. Don't give in to teasing, mocking, or jeering. Always remember that at heart, you're the better man (or woman) and are doing what's right.




Yeah, I doubt many people actually read through this entire thing..

 

[TicklishCreeper]

Here is a guide that I have made to help others from bullying.

Important- Bullying is not teasing, teasing is when another tries to provoke you in a playful way. Bullying is either making fun of another's race, appearance or religion, physically/emotionally/mentally hurting another or using superiority to make another do something.

1- Emotionally,
When a bully tries to hurt you emotionally they will target your race, religion or appearance. What they say will get to you, if it does do not let them see that it does. If they do see that's when they know that they have found someone that will be affected by them and they will not stop. Another way to make them stop is turning what they say into a joke or merely laughing at it. If they think that all they're doing is amusing you, why would they continue? The last way is just to walk away, if they follow you just block them out. Go to your friends and just play with them.
2- Mentally,
Most of emotionally fits in with mentally, but I will cover one specific thing in this paragraph. If someone either bullies you into making yourself want to commit suicide / do self harm or says something along the lines of "go die" and you get a suicidal mindset they'll continue. If you ever do have a suicidal mindset just remember what you have in life, loving family, fantastic friends or just food and water. Remember that you can be something great and if your bully continues on his path he'll have ruined himself.
3- Physically,
Bullying someone physically can be pushing another around to beating someone. Either is just a serious if you are be pushed around it can lead to the bully thinking it's ok and beating people. If you are being physically bullied you need to tell someone (not to be cliche), do not fight back unless completely needed. Fighting back will just aggravate the bully more.
4- Miscellaneous,
If you are being bullied because you have a different skin colour, religious outlook or are homosexual/bisexual it's not acceptable. To stop this sometimes you can merely ask "what's wrong with looking different?" and similar statements for the others. This can stop the bully as they may have no answer. However if they continue once again ignore what they're are saying, just walk away.
5- Cyber-Bullying,
Cyber-bullying is when another hurts you verbally through the internet. Swearing at you, saying things that effect you or just making you feel terrible. There are many things you can do to prevent cyber-bullying, blocking the person that's bullying you, ignoring them or just plainly turning off your computer.

P.S- If you are being bullied always try to tell someone.
P.P.S- If you have anything to add, comment.
P.P.P.S- Mods move this if it's in the wrong section.

kinda like my old thread but still a nice post